Mookhe Bhate

In addition to the weddings, we had a first rice ceremony for Torin (Mookhe Bhathe). The above photo shows the rugs that Takuma made for the rice ceremony.


The ceremony is traditionally performed by the mother's brother. As luck would have it, my brother Nat was there, and more than happy to be a part of the festivities. The above picture shows that first part of the ceremony, where Torin was presented with some items on a tray: a pen, a book, some clay, some money. He picked the pen, which I believe symbolizes wisdom.


Nat and Torin, neither of them is sure what will happen next...


This is Torin's 'first meal'. He didn't actually eat any of it, but Nat touched each item to his lips. Nat was then expected to finish the food himself...although nobody told him this before the huge lunch which was right before the ceremony.


Baby Torin, asleep after the big event...

India: 2 weddings and a rice ceremony

Our trip to India was amazing: 2 weddings and a 1st rice ceremony, as well as lots of great family time. The picture above shows how Torin's Indian family made him a proper Indian baby by putting ash spots on the bottom of his feet and the side of his head. This may be oversimplified and possibly not entirely correct, but my understanding is this is done so that the evil spirits do not think he is 'too perfect'.

We showed Torin off to everyone, even this very old and wise Guru at the temple was pleased to hold and to bless our little pumpkin.

The brides: Femke and Mantu, on the first day of Mantu's wedding and the last day of Femke and Ajoy's wedding.
Abir's grandmother (Takuma) holding Torin. This makes her Torin's Boro-ma, or great grandmother.